Motivation & Achievement Concepts

A Career Development Company



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If You’re My Boss, Who’s Running Hell?

I often jokingly, but accurately refer to myself as “the Harriet Tubman of crappy jobs”. It really is the best descriptor of what I do. The vast majority of my clients are currently working but want out of their job for one reason or another. Most of those reasons can be lumped into the category of “Under-employed”; a buzz-word that was created in the aftermath of the 2008 economic crisis. Sadly, the actual issue that continues to vie for first place in my “underground railroad to employment freedom”, is managerial abuse. Their boss or superior is a horrible, evil, mentally unstable human.

I have learned to take everything I hear with a grain of salt. However, at least 3-4 times a year, I will hear the same story over and over, by 3, 4, 5 or more separate individuals. Like so many times before, I have spent the last 2 months listening to 5 individuals come to me, each not knowing the other, with the same story. What is extremely frightening is how their tales of managerial-terror are peppered with the EXACT same phrases. Maybe I watch too much “Cold Justice” and “Forensic Files”. However, I am starting to find truth in the phrase, “2 is a coincidence. 3 is a pattern.”

When I start to have these “patterns” build up in my client files, it hurts me to the core. At 19 years old, I had been battling an auto-immune disorder similar to Leukemia and was told I had 2 years to live. I started Motivation & Achievement Concepts because no one should have to spend the majority of their waking hours in terror. Life is too damn short.

I have had clients who were spending between $200 – $400 a month on co-pays for doctors’ visits and a litany of medications including anti-anxiety, blood pressure, sleeping pills, and on and on. They could literally have taken a job that pays $2 less per hour and come away with more money in their pocket. Feel free to visit an old article of mine, “The Cost of Hating Your Job”.

I have to say, I am deeply affected by my clients’ struggles. While at one of my first jobs in my early twenties, I remember asking a co-worker, “Does [person making life hell] have pictures of the boss in a compromising position with a goat? Why don’t they fire her?” If you ever have about 3 hours, call me. I would be more than happy to tell you why I will never go back to work for a church or their governing body. However, while I have seen and experienced unspeakable horrors in the work place, I have, for now, grown a company that helps people successfully get out of those situations.

Even though I have clients all over the country and internationally, the majority of my clients come from my local area of Upstate South Carolina. Much in the style of the FBI’s most wanted, I would love to shout from the rooftops the names of the “worst offender-bosses” in my community. But for now, I hope I can offer some advice here.

1. Document, document, document, and document some more. It is so easy, with today’s technology to print out an email with a time/date stamp on it. Also, keep a journal, and don’t forget dates and names. Even if you can write down the date and ONE sentence about the situation, you can go back later to write the rest of the story.

2. Seek a mental health professional. When meeting or speaking to a potential or new client, the first words out of my mouth are, “I am not a life coach. I am not a therapist. I do not want to be. I am strictly a Career Coach. If you need or I feel you need any type of counseling services I am happy to refer you out.” If money is an issue, there are clinicians who will charge on a sliding scale.

3. Make a list of your priorities and focus on them. Are your family, spouse, or children at the top of your list? Are you spending 2 or more hours every evening just trying to unwind from the day? Then make a change toward a better work-life balance. If you are angry all evening, your job is stealing valuable time out of your life that they are not paying you for!

4. Know your rights! Unfortunately, laws protecting against Managerial Abuse are still in development. The EEOC (the Equal Employment Opportunity Commission) can really only investigate cases that directly violate “Federally Protected Classes” like race, age, or gender, named under the Title VII of the Civil Rights Act of 1964. There are developments being made in areas of Managerial Abuse. With workplace killing sprees at epidemic levels, there is a great team of crusaders who made a documentary, “Murder by Proxy; the Day America Went Postal”. They have been working for improved legislation on workplace abuses and creating ways to identify employees who need help, before they reach a breaking point.

5. Contact an attorney. The EEOC is fine, but overwhelmed. Most labor lawyers represent the side of the company. Feel free to seek out an attorney in your area, but I can personally refer you to Alan Lazenby or Ginger Goforth with the Lazenby Law Firm. They are have done great things for people with wrongful termination and discrimination cases.

6. Hire me. Let’s work together to get you out of that situation. Like I said earlier, life is too damn short to spend your days in an abusive environment.

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